Love is being together, in happiness and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, in better and in worse. The whole concept of being in love is being for each other, with each other ….forever.
The equation changes when miles of distance comes between a relationship. Couples find it hard to stay apart yet near, to contain their feelings of being together with their loved ones, the distance teases them with its existence.
What is the meaning of Long Distance Relationship in literal terms?
A long-distance relationship (LDR) or a long-distance romantic relationship (LDRR) is an intimate relationship between partners who are geographically separate from one another. Partners in LDRs face geographic separation and lack of face to face contact.Source: Wikipedia
But as the famous saying goes, love finds its way. And being apart teaches us how to be together. Distance means so little when someone means so much. Long distance relationships do face the litmus test often, and the victorious couples enjoy harmony and bliss forever in life. Yes, the path is not easy to walk on… it is emotionally draining, mentally challenging and the most importantly it does leave you having increased financial burdens as nothing comes cheap now. Technology has made life easy but still, it does hit the pocket.
There are ways for a long-distance relationship to work perfectly. Jus abide by the rules and try to cope up with the difficulties and you will emerge as the clear winner. Certain pointers for you love birds:
1. Less is more
Excessive communication is often fatal. Being in a long-distance relation one often feels the urge to stay connected through communication. Well, initially it all looks rosy and heartwarming. But then too much of it makes a person clogged up for personal space. The more you talk, the more you fight. Constant check on each others life often leads to misrepresentation and misunderstanding of one’s thoughts and feelings. A lot is lost between what was said and what was understood.
2. Know your surviving abilities
Such relationship tests as to how much heat one can face. It makes you the best judge of your surviving capabilities. A long-distance relationship can often be an opportunity, to gauge a person’s inner strength vis a vis his partner. Expectations are always sky high, the gap arises when reality does not match up. Certain ground rules should be set between the partners, so the level of expectations is maintained within achievable limits. The rules should be in favor of both, abided by both.
3. You’ve got mail
Well letters and postcards however romantic they were have now become a thing of past. Since the advent of technology in our lives, online exchange of messages, emails, what’s -app, snap chat, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter have become the new carriers of love and emotion between lovers. Pigeons came and went, letters ruled our hearts and emotions, postcards told us untold stories, but sadly they have lost the importance and viability if not the charm in this millennial age. Long distance relations nowadays have the benefit of being in touch with the mediums mentioned above. They feel connected at will at any point in time. Video calls make near ones and dear ones more approachable.
4. Social media tracking
Well, social media brings you way closer but at the same time raises doubts too. Too much of sharing on this platform perpetuates jealousy among partners. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, but it sure makes the rest of you lonely. Social media postings generally leads to insecurities among couples. This happens especially if one has a large group of people to hang out with and is a socially active and accepted person. We should be tracking each other schedules to know the whereabouts but stalking to know the acts and activities is a big no. Staying honest is what keeps a relationship going strong. To avoid circumstances which may lead to dangerous situations, best is to stay clean.
5. Couple goals
Long distance relationships dig a hole in the pocket, when one travels all those miles to catch the smiling face and embrace the person with all love and warmth. No compromise should be done on this ground. Meeting up is very necessary unless and until one wants a natural death for the relation. Physical meet ups form the base, otherwise as they say- out of sight is out of mind. Frequency can be decided amicably which should be practical enough. Time should be constructively spent in doing things together. One has enjoyed enough “me-time” now let’s make space for “we-time”.
Love knows no boundaries; its limitless but long-distance relations are hard to maintain. Anyone who survives this truthfully loves his or her soulmate. Blind trust in each other and patience within are the prerequisite of this victory.
Distance is not for the fearful, its for the bold. It’s for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for the little time that they will get together. True love and real lovers will travel as far as you let them go. As it has no limits. It knows no boundaries, can cross all borders. It’s limitless, it’s fearless. True love will always emerge as the winner against all odds.