BEFORE YOU ASSUME, TRY THIS CRAZY METHOD CALLED “ASKING”

 

The root cause of all conflicts has always been “I assumed”. We all assume what was never spoken, was never written, was never heard, was never even thought of. The assumption factor is what leads to all misunderstandings, personal or professional, random or strategic.Breakdown of communication is solely responsible for the emergence of friction and misunderstandings between individuals .

 

Literal Meaning of Misunderstanding.

 

The dictionary meaning of misunderstanding is: A situation in which somebody/something is not understood correctly.

Misunderstanding or misinterpretation or dissatisfaction, whichever terminology we use has created havoc on relationships. Loss of clarity, failure to follow instructions, abandoning responsibility, mud slinging, have all contributed at large for misunderstandings to prevail at large.

A person is full of mistakes and imperfections, therefore they are real. So committing mistakes is a second nature. But if these mistakes create differences then it leads to misunderstandings and hence a conflict in the relations. It brings out the negativity in us, we may be very good at heart but often lose control over our emotions regarding conflicts.

 

As they say, you don’t intentionally hurt people whom  you love. But you eventually hurt only those whom you love because you can’t hurt people whom you don’t love. Hurt and love coincide with each other.

Your feelings are your signals of deep thoughts inside of you. They’re the language of your soul and they need you to listen to them. And if they signal that  something wrong is being done by you, one should pay heed to it. After all, misunderstandings are the laying foundation of a wrecked relation, so one should try thier best to avoid it. Here, are some pointers which could be helpful in detangling our complicated lives. 

 

 

 

Tips to Help Avoid Misunderstanding.

 

 

  • Start listening.

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  • The important aspect in every relation is the ability to listen. We fight because we listen to those words and phrases that we want to hear. Partial listening is what we all follow, we do selective hearing and thus the problem arises. We form our opinions, mostly wrong on the words that we have heard and comprehended to our own convenience. If one listens properly before having pre-conceived notions, life will be good.

 

  • Stop exercising the right.

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  • We all love to exercise our rights. Rights and their attainment are all what we seek. And when we fight for these rights, it leads to confrontations and misunderstandings. Placing the rights over and above the relations leads to their break downs. A misunderstanding is bound to happen when a “WE” is replaced by an “I” in a relationship.

 

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  • A break is all what is needed.

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  •  One must master the art of learning to just be himself and let go things at large. The person must know as to when to be aggressive and when to be patient. If one is constantly complaining or bickering, then any relation will soon hit the dust. Nobody likes a complaint box. Moreover, to avoid the conflicts that are arising in your life due to various misunderstandings, one should take a small trip (preferably alone or with a set of different friends). A gap is sometimes all one needs to heal the relation, as they say time is the best healer.
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  • The focus should be the feelings of individuals.

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  •  One of the best feelings in the world is knowing that your presence and your absence both mean something to someone. One should feel wanted, loved, cared and desirable in a relation. All the factors above strengthen the bond between people. If we focus on the feelings involved in our relations, then misunderstanding can be easily done away with. We should be expressive of our feelings. Expression is the art which should be perfected by one and all. Helps a long way.
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  • Seek help.

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  •  It’s okay to go through rough patches. Efforts should be made to resolve them also. But if the desired results are not being attained, then its best to seek help and bury the underlying cause of those misunderstandings. A therapist will solve the mess that has been created, will try to flush out those emotions hidden in us. The anxiety that we breath, the panic attacks that have engulfed us, all can be resolved with a help of a professional. Love is difficult to find, even more difficult is to keep that love strong against all obstacles. Misunderstandings are a part of our life, they will mess us up. It’s upon us to decide the degree and the impact that it will carry on our lives.

 

Nonfulfillment of expectations often leads to misunderstandings. They lay the death bed of any relationship. Engulfing oneself in the web of self-assumption and over analysis of thoughts paves way to misunderstanding in a relationship. We should keep distance from them and lead  a life full of joy and happiness. After all one life is all that we have got.

 

Let‘s show some love and work together towards a happy perfect life.

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